The separated self is held in separation by self judgment.
Judgment is an act of separation and love is an act of unity.
The self that is judged is ever seeking acceptance and desiring the love that is denied.
The ability to step forth into freedom is denied by the weight of the separation of the self judgment.
Forgiveness is to "give again" beyond separation.
Self judgnent is an act of defining the self.
Define yourself with love.
(This is one of 52 cards of the Insight Deck by Steven Dubois)
Love is the answer...